Do you need to shift the dial?

When I think or hear about self-care - we are not doing enough, we should do more, it's really important, are you taking care of yourself? - it's easy to just say, "Yes, nice idea. I really have to prioritise that". And then just get sucked back into everything-else-ness.

All that stuff that need taking care of - that's not you - is right there in front of you. It needs our attention now. Right now! So just give me a minute to finish this, and I'll get onto some self-care. Whatever that is for me?

But when we don't say No to nonstop, neverending, right now, everything-else-ness, we are pushing ourselves further away from good self-care. And that just isn't healthy. Because at the other end of the scale is self-neglect.

Maybe thinking in binary terms about looking after the body and mind that make up the one and only you can help clarify just how much this matters.

Are you comfortable continuing to behave in a way that is neglectful?

Stay with that for a while. Then you can pop the whole self-care idea back on a scale where you aim to do ONE small, self-caring THING better each day. And stay clear of the self-neglect zone.