Calling a spade a shovel

We all want honesty, transparency and authenticity. We want to be able to express ourselves in a way that reflects those characteristics. Be able to call a spade a spade. But ONE THING to avoid is using this as a justification to make the spade a shovel and hit people with it.

I hear this from time to time with my coaching clients. They believe they are just being direct but there can be more to it than that. Their tone, choice of language but most importantly, their intention steps beyond simply getting their perspective across.

I was reminded of this when I was discussing an approach to a delicate conversation and a colleague shared they didn't want to 'pull their punches'. But why do you want to be punching in the first place?

Check your intentions. Ask if this is about you being right rather than getting the best outcome. And be courageous and compassionate in your conversations with others.