Welcome to People Pleasing-ville - the friendliest town in the county.

In a conversation the other day, I described a situation—the context doesn't matter—which got the response, "Sounds like they are straying into people-pleasing territory there." I wondered where that was exactly, what other territories might be located nearby, and what happened there.

So here's what I found.

Validation-Seeking Territory

A place where individuals constantly seek validation from others, often at the expense of their own values and needs. It's the heart of selfie sticks and breakfast pics, as people post their lives on social media for likes and comments.

Approval-Driven Territory

Not too dissimilar to the previous territory, as people prioritise gaining the approval of others and make decisions based on what they believe will make them more likable or accepted. You can find yourself volunteering in five committees to ensure people see you as 'community-minded'.

Conflict-Avoidant Territory

Residents go to great lengths to avoid conflict and confrontation, even when it means suppressing their opinions or desires. It is a place where politics and religion are never discussed, but it can get ugly as every now and again, it all goes off like a powder keg.

Overcommitment Territory

A habitat for those who habitually overcommit themselves to please others, leading to burnout and neglect of their own well-being. But there is always a whole lot going on, and it's often overcatered.

Boundary-Challenged Territory

For people who have difficulty setting and enforcing personal boundaries, often letting others encroach on their time and resources. No fences, no locks, but the occasional naked person from two doors up helping themselves to your fridge.

Compliance-Oriented Territory

This territory is great for individuals who comply with the wishes of others without question, sometimes to the detriment of their own values and goals. It is nice for a visit because people are so amiable, but watch out for cults.

Self-Sacrificing Territory

Where people consistently put the needs and wants of others ahead of their own. It's excellent fodder for daytime TV dramas or reality shows as it can lead to unhappiness and resentment.

Wanna go on a road trip with me next weekend?